Everyone feels alone or left out sometimes. It’s definitely not a feeling we look forward to. Typically, it goes away on its own. Some people even really enjoy being alone. A person is only lonely if they experience the absence of relationships and contact with others as negative. Loneliness affects people of all ages. If you start studying in a new city and everything is unknown to you, it can make you feel lonely. Young people often experience loneliness.

Signals of loneliness

• A sad, empty, powerless, or scared feeling
• Negative thoughts and low self-image
• Social awkwardness, shyness, uncertainty, difficulty communicating, experiencing bullying
• Possessive behaviour in response to avoidance behaviour
• Feeling incapable of changing the situation which is causing the loneliness
• Stress and physical symptoms like headaches and shortness of breath
• Gloomy attitude, listlessness, loss of appetite, and trouble sleeping
• The use of sleeping medication/sedatives or alcohol

What can you do?

  • Make contact with other people. Consider taking part in a group activity related to an interest of yours. It could be a sport or hobby through which you will meet other people.
  • Is it difficult to come into contact with people due to your circumstances? There are also buddy projects for which you will be paired with a buddy. Typically, that person will be a volunteer who will do something fun with you or simply chat. More information on this can be found at Vrijwillig Wageningen (Wageningen volunteers).
  • Young people often prefer to seek out contact with others via the internet as well, such as in forums or on social media.
  • Startpunt, the student psychologist, or a youth worker can help you brainstorm about what you can do.
  • You can also contact Sensoorphonenumber 026 - 443 60 00, They will offer a listening ear 24 hours a day.